First love...

[Young]

So I need some advice in terms of first love. I am from the UK and I am currently going through my first year of college. So I am 16 years old along with everyone around me (some may be 17 if they have had their birthday of course). First of all, I just want to talk a bit about me. I have never been in any relationship and never even experienced love through the whole of my life until starting college. I have realised I am a very mature, respectful, confident person and after doing multiple psychic readings and hand readings (even though I do not believe in any God) I have been told that in terms of love women will generally look at me as a very great guy who they would want to be with. Anyway, I started college in September of this year and mainly focused on settling in. I barely had any problems with this as I am a generally confident and friendly person. I went through the first half term fine but then we had a change in seating plan in one of my subjects and I noticed a girl sat in front of me (as the room is set out in a theatre fashion with rows of tables in front of one another). At first, I thought nothing of her. But after the course of around two weeks, I realised I was falling in love with her and I had never felt anything like it. I couldn't stop thinking about her and I would literally shake and sweat when I was in that class. That was around two months ago now. So I began to think about what to do and I just couldn't stop thinking about and I still can't now. We both have a mutual friend in the class and I get along really well with the teacher and we have lots of jokes. As I am a confident person, I try to make jokes with him often and I find that she laughs often because of them. Anyway, I didn't do too much in terms of advancing towards her because I was so engrossed in thinking that I never stood a chance with her. But exactly a week ago (4th Dec), I decided to do something about it and try and make some moves towards her. So I made a lot of jokes in class that day and she laughed. But after the class (which was the last lesson on that day so we would head straight for the buses to go home) I saw that she stayed behind to talk to our mutual friend so I jumped on the opportunity and got involved in the conversation. At first, she seemed a bit stunned as she stopped talking, so I talked to our mutual friend for a bit and whilst it was just us three and she probably listened although she was on her phone but didn't seem to be doing anything on it. She didn't say anything else. But when we got to the point where we would all split off to go to separate buses (the student entrance), she opened the door but turned back so she was holding the door with her back and I looked up at her and saw she was looking into my eyes and I looked into hers. I felt amazing, my heart rate went through the roof. Then she went off to her bus. Normally, I know people would say it could be nothing but when I had never had any signs from her before I felt there could be something. I didn't see any other reason she could have looked into my eyes as I am probably 7 inches taller than her so I can't see that she would just accidentally skim across my face and it happened on accident and there was no conversation going on. Anyway, since then I have noticed she keeps laughing at my jokes in class a lot and I have caught her looking at me a few times. But we have looked each other in the eyes around 4 times now in a single week (bearing in mind that we never see each other on a Wednesday or weekends (so we have had direct eye contact around 4 times in 5 days that we have had the chance)). She is absolutely perfect but I am terrified because I have no experience of this. I couldn't bear to see her in a relationship with another person so I want to try and move fast but I have no experience of this and don't know how to take this. Do you think she is in love with me too? What should I do? I keep hating myself when I realise I have missed an opportunity to move forward with her. Should I feel bad about this or is it okay?

Thanks so much for any help,
Daniel.

[Dennis]

I'm going to give you some tips on how to approach girls at school as well as why the library is a great spot in school to meet girls.

First let's go over a few things you need to know before you even attempt to approach a girl at school:

1. Make sure that you are confident in yourself

2. Make sure that you respect yourself and love yourself. Accept you curly hair or whatever it is your insecure about. The sooner you accept this the better off you are! Just remember looks fade so if your not the best looking kid it's alright! Besides girls are more into confidence than looks anyways!

3. If your in high school then it does matter who you hang out with. Establish yourself some friends in a circle that have a good social status. This isn't a deal breaker but will makes things a lot easier for you! Because girls in high school are all about who's cool and who's not! It doesn't mean you can't get the most popular girl in the school because you can if you know what to do.

OK now that we have that out of the way its time to talk about approaching girls. Learning how to approach a girl at school is a bit different than everyday settings outside of school. Make sure that you are having fun with some friends and are seen having fun in the halls. If you decide to approach her in the halls then you need to make it brief and direct. But if your looking to talk to her in the class room or at the lockers then you just need to make small talk about something relative.

Just make sure you do not show that much interest in her right away. Be seen with other girls if possible and even get some rumors floating about how many girls like you! If you need more advanced help in approaching girls be sure to check out my bio box at the end of this article to read my free approaching guide. But for now lets talk a little about the library method to getting girls in the library!

Getting girls in the library is a great solution for approaching girls at school. The reason being is that you have some one on one alone time with the girl. For this to work you basically need to find out when the girl of your dreams goes to the library! After you learn when she usually goes to the library you will need to sit near her. The library is a place to study I know but it's also a great place to study with partners. You basically just need to sit near the girl you like talk about your studies. Gradually build things up and show interest in her. How to approach a girl at school is a mix of confidence and knowing what to say. It's a great way to meet girls and now you just need the right things to say to her which isn't that hard.

[Nate]

Don't you hate having conversations which are all alike? So do women. No one wants to hear the same questions over and over, so if you can make yourself stand out, it's a lot easier to get someone's attention and start building attraction. Women are often approached by men and asked more or less the same questions every time; the result is a series of dull conversations that leads nowhere.

Make A Statement

Instead of grilling a woman you're interested with questions, take a different approach - try making statements instead. You'll still get the answer you were looking for, but you'll make more of an impression on her at the same time. If you're wrong, she'll correct you; and this may also open up the opportunity for a more personal chat. You might also be correct, in which case you may impress her and build a rapport almost instantly.

Open Up

Most of us don't find it terribly easy to open up about our emotions, insecurities or even our goals, especially the first time we talk to a woman who we want to make a good impression on. Even as difficult as it can be to do this, you have to - moving to a deeper level of conversation allows you to connect on an emotional level. We're usually more comfortable talking about anything but ourselves; and we've been socialized to avoid showing any sign of vulnerability.

However, women tend to see vulnerability as an asset, since they are much more likely than their male counterparts to acknowledge the strength that it can take to open up to someone else. If you can open up to a woman (without going overboard, of course), you'll have a much better chance of starting a conversation and keeping it going.

Build An Emotional Connection

Now that we've talked about the importance of opening up to a woman you're interested in, you're probably wondering how to do it. The best openings are to talk about the best (or worst) things that have happened to you in your life, about your childhood - or if these are a little too intense for you to go into the first time that you meet someone, talk about your passions in life. By opening up a little, you begin to build the trust and emotional rapport with her which allows her to open up to you as well. As long as you're willing and able to be a good listener and to hold up your end of the conversation, this just could be the beginning of something big!