My boyfriend makes no effort with gifts

[Nicola1982]

I have just exchanged Xmas presents with my boyfriend as I won’t now see him until the new year. I always make loads of effort with his presents. I get presents that are thoughtful and I know he will like. He makes no effort whatsoever. This year he got me a reindeer decoration. I looked at it and it has a smile drawn on it with pen! Turns out it was from a charity shop. He also got me a puzzle that has half the pieces missing. Also a charity shop gift. It is not about the cost, that’s not the issue. It’s his total lack of thought. For my birthday he got me a pack of biscuits. Im really struggling to put up with his lack of thought and effort. It has really upset me and I feel like I can’t even talk to it him about it as he gets mad with me. I help him with so much and I’m always there for him. I am beginning to wonder what his feelings are for me. He is just so selfish. Has anyone ever had a similar situation. I’m in need of some advice. Thanks

[bunnyhabit]

have you discussed if these cheap gifts indicate his attitude about you? is he very financially challenged? before jumping to conclusions ask him. open communication is the heart of any romantic relationship. let him know extravagant gifting and adequate compensation is your expectation for a romantic relationship so he is aware. the way he treats you romantically is a key indication of his feelings about you. are you and him sexually active?

[Nicola1982]

Hi. It’s not the cost that I’m bothered about. When we first met he would make lots of effort and be thoughtful but they weren’t necessarily expensive gifts, that didn’t bother me. If is definitely not financially challenged. He retired at 30 as he inherited a lot of money, his car is worth more than my house! I have told him about his lack of effort before and how it hurts me. He gets mad with me. I was particularly hurt this time as he was away staying with a friend and I saw on Facebook he got a huge bouquet of flowers for his friends wife to say thank you. He would never do that for me. I just feel totally taken for granted. Yes we are sexually active. I am thinking maybe I should end it as his lack of thought always leaves me feeling sad

[Nicolas]

I think he doesn't have enough money to get you the gift you would like. Also, his lack of thought about gift maybe as a result of age factor.

I'll advice you talk to him about your feelings and how you aren't happy with the kind of gifts he gives you. I believe he would change after telling him this. However, if he doesn't, it's obvious he's not willing to make sacrifice for the relationship.