Do I follow my head or my heart??

[follow head or heart?]

Follow head or heart?

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My boyfriend and I have been together for several years. During this time we broke up a few times and I did date some others that he is aware of.

He is currently putting pressure on me to move in my home and marry me next year. I haven’t been comfortable with this idea because of our different finances. He has very little (lives paycheck to paycheck and has only about $18K saved which was an inheritance) but I am very comfortable working and saving all my life and can retirement decently. But we do love each other and get along. Yesterday he said he was always worried that I’m always looking for someone else that is “better“ for me. He knows my daughter doesn’t care for him and does feel I should find somebody more compatible in terms of education (I’m a lawyer) as well as finances. My heart is saying don’t leave him but my head is telling me to run from him because I’ll regret it if I don’t.

My daughter is visiting me next week for the holiday and he expects to see her but she doesn’t want to.

This is so hard. Any thoughts?

[Scot]

If you're convinced that you may regret getting married to him, then don't go against your instinct. Also, don't keep leading him on if you aren't going to get married to him.

[Kate]

I believe that what's more important in any relationship is love and not money. So, if you love him and happy to be around him, then don't let the issue of finance destroy your relationship with the one you love.

[bunnyhabit]

relationships between people of vastly different financial and intellectual levels typically are not successful or enjoyable in the long run. I suggest that you follow your head in this dilemma. daughters typically do not like guys other than their father with their mother so that should never be an show stopper in your relationship with a man.