Minor problem that makes me feel so bad

[Ummmm9043]

Okay so I'm posting this on a forum since I'm ashamed to tell it to others but I would like to have people stop falling in love with me. I mean I know a lot of people would say "lucky you" because I have people that would like to date me, but for me is just emotional turmoil. So I have a lot of toxic habits and personality wise I lack a lot of redeeming traits and I'm pretty bland overall. And this is not just someone who is self loathing I'm actually really trying to become a better person and be less hurtful but it's at a hard pace ( I also participate in therapy sessions) Although my best efforts to be better there are always two or three people confessing to me and they get really offended that I reject them, and this rejections also make me feel worse than I already do.
All my past relationships were kind of the same were I hurt the other person so yeah I really don't want to date again until I fix my issues.
Anyone knows what I could do to cope better with rejecting people or make people not be romantically interested in me ?

[bunnyhabit]

be honest with them as you have here. tell them that it is not about them but you have personal issues that you have decided must be overcome prior to any meaningful relationships with anyone. make them and you comfortable that it is not a rejection of them but a conflict with your present goals in life.

[Ummmm9043]

Thanks for the advice !
I have did this before and some think I'm lying about my problems and think it's their fault still... Maybe I haven't explained it clear enough.

[bunnyhabit]

when they see you are not hustling a new squeeze they will believe you want to be alone not blowing them away.