Is my boyfriend in love with me because I offer financial security?

[Crossroads20]

My bf and I have been together for almost 6 years. It has generally been a wonderful relationship but we’ve had our challenges and brief breakups. Among the challenges is his financial situation. As of now, he is in a much better financial condition than the other years because I helped him budget and his friend gave him a job. He’s more careful about what he spends to make sure that he does not overspend on his credit card. However the reality is that between work and Social Security he just about breaks even on bills including his rent. He has been pressuring me to live with him and move in my home and I am very concerned that the precarious financial situation he could be in could haunt me. He has very little saved for retirement or rainy day fund so this could become part of my problem. However he is very loving and caring for me and my children and has many other qualities.

My daughter lives out of town and she does not care for him at all because she really feels he is so wrong for me given his misrepresentations about his finances in the past but more so because he is in a weak financial position . I am in a much different position since I have worked and saved money all my life and been very cautious about spending so I am looking forward to a comfortable retirement however I don’t have enough for both of us.

My daughter really wants nothing to do with him and she does live out of town and it’s sort of doable so I don’t really bring him up to her when he’s over.

I recently had surgery and he’s been over a few times to help me and I’m still recovering but last night he yelled at me after I got off the phone with my daughter because I did not tell her he was over helping me and making me dinner etc. I told him I really was not up to arguing about it which I wasn’t and it seemed that he felt a little bad about yelling at me given that my health condition was impaired but he never really apologized. I want to add that my boyfriend was also aware that last week was the 7th anniversary of my late husbands death from cancer and I have to go take a test this week for precancerous tissue which he will go with me for. Needless to say I’m not emotionally strong right now. I find it disturbing he can only think of himself but then he is so loving and caring. Do I run from him or just grin and bear it since no one is perfect and somehow deal with my daughter?

[bunnyhabit]

I believe he loves you but your superior financial condition is very important to him. He fully anticipates your love will insure a better future lifestyle to him. That is the why he trying to get close to your daughter so she will contribute to his life enjoying, also. I am sure am sure he understands her opposition rationale. You should make him well aware that you are looking forward to a comfortable retirement however you don’t have enough to make you supply for both of you. Tell him this is a good why you segregate your daughter from him. As she views him as a gold digger and not compatible with him. if I was you I would focus on finding a wealth man to spend my retirement with rather than a freeloader you have now. Your daughter seems to really be an intelligent girl focusing on your happiness. I would listen to her advice very carefully.

[John]

We all love money and your boyfriend isn't different. So, he might be with you for the money and also loves you. However, there are ways to tell if he truly loves you.

How to know if he loves you is one question most women have wondered about at some point. When you've fallen hard for a guy and he has yet to tell you he feels the same way, you're left trying to decipher whether or not he's as taken with you as you are with him. You could obviously ask him but that only really serves to put him on the spot. You don't want to do that. Instead, it's best to learn to read what's going on in his heart based on his actions.

Here are 4 clear signs that your man is in love with you:

He stares at you. Men in love are focused on one thing and that's the woman they desire. If you notice your guy is always staring longingly at you, he's crazy for you. Next time you two are in a crowded restaurant or at a party with lots of people present, pay special attention to whether or not he's staring only at you. If he is, the man is definitely yours.

You've met all the important people in his life. Unlike us, men are a bit more reserved when it comes to introducing the women they date to their close friends and family. If you've met and regularly spend time with the other people he cares for, he's feeling very close to you.

He loves talking about you. Does your guy go on and on endlessly about himself when you two are having a conversation? If he does, that's not a promising sign of where his heart is. When a man has fallen in love he only wants to talk about his woman. He loves learning new and interesting information about her.

He hates saying goodbye. Whether you two are talking on the phone or saying goodnight at the end of your date, your guy hates it. He prolongs it as long as possible and will tell you over and over again that he doesn't want to say goodbye. If this sounds like your man, he's hooked on you.

If you feel that you're the number one priority in his life that means you hold a very special place in his heart. Just remember to look at his actions through objective eyes. You want to see his actions for what they are and if you do recognize the signs of a man in love, rest assured that his heart already belongs completely and solely to you.