Family hates my boyfriend

[Jadesamson]

Hi everyone,

Most of my family hates my boyfriend especially my mum, Sister and my Aunt - I know what he did was wrong and that was asking me to do pics and videos for him and that was like when we were 15/16 years old but that is in the past now and he hasn't done anything wrong since then and now they don't want me talking to him, Meeting up with him or being friends with him! (They don't want me to have any contact with him at all)! I love him and he loves me and I want to tell my family how much he really means to me but I know for a fact that they won't listen to me!

I had him on Facebook but my mum had to block him because of what he did and I’m really am tempted to unblock him!

The only time I get to see him and talk to him and be friends with him is when I’m at a day group called OFLAC (Oak Farm Leaning and Activity Club) and it's a group for adults with any Learning disabilities!

We're still together but behind my family’s back and we've been together 1 year 1 month and 1 day now but I don't want to keep it a secret anymore BUT I know if I told my family how much he really means to me they will probably want me to break up with him - I don't want to break up with him I want a future with him

Like I said I love my boyfriend and I don’t want to break up with him!

[Peggy]

Your family probably have a good reason for hating your boyfriend. When your WHOLE family hates him, it must be a good reason and most likely for your own good.

However, if you really loved your boyfriend, you should try to explain him to your whole family. It’d be good if you could find a success relationship story to back-up your argument.

[Anthonia]

Okay, this is really only my opinion: if you have or had a strong relationship with your mother and you love her, I would really leave my boyfriend.

This is a very hard situation I know, I have experienced something similar to this, and I have to say that in 95% of cases where you have to chose between a partner and parents, that I think the parents are right. Of course it really depends on the situation and why a parent or parents my disprove of their children’s partner.

In my case I think my parents were right, because they loved me endlessly and the problem with my then-partner was, that he simply wasn’t right for me. I didn’t believe it first but after so many people had told me, also people that were not related to me, that he was not the right one, because of some circumstances (he was taking advantage of me and other things) I began to realize it as well and started questioning my relationship. And First I thought it was so unfair that they were letting me choose between them. It was like either I’m with my family or with him.

Now I have to say that I am beyond thankful, because I know that in my case it wasn’t even real love. I always had an amazing relationship with my parents and they did everything for my siblings and I in order to provide us the best life they could give us, and when I look back I realize now that I was very stupid of me to think that my parents didn’t want me to be happy. They knew how my life would look like if I stayed with him and I am beyond grateful that I ended this relationship.

I hope I could help you in any way, but I really recommend you to analyze why your mother doesn’t want you to be with your partner. Consider it carefully and take time to speak to her and listen what she has to say. If you love her or have a good relationship with her and know she alsways has good intentions in the , I would really question the current situation.

Of course she could be wrong as well, but I really think to think rationally and take time for yourself, be away from both of them, your mother and boyfriend and take your time.

I wish you good luck