Hello,
I'm 28, I've been dating this new guy for about 5 months and it's recently become long distance due to him finishing his PhD.
He is a wonderful guy. Easily thr healthiest relationship that I've been involved in.
My current issue is that I'm suddenly re-grieving my last ex. Even though we broke up 2 years ago. And it was a semi toxic relationship. Not abusive, but definitely not healthy as both of us have our share of trauma and baggage. But I LOVED this man. And about a month ago, I received a text from him asking to take me on a date. I didn't have his number saved and I proceeded to block him. But I've had trouble shaking myself of him since. Like I've been having lots of dreams and everything.
I think me missing him is largely due to me feeling lonely.
my boyfriend really does put effort into out relationship. BUT he is across the country and busy with school and stuff obviously. And I know that I can't really ask him to pay more attention to me than he does. Because it's really already more than he has time for.
its just making me second guess everything. My current relationship is kinda up in the air depending on where he moves for his post doc and whether or not I feel comfortable uprooting my life to follow him in the next year or so.
And I KNOW going back to my ex wouldn't be a good move. But wow it's giving me some unexpectedly disabling grief that i wasn't expecting.
To clarify, I'd never cheat. I've not responded and I would not as long as I'm in this relationship.
But its a hard spot to be in and i guess i just needed somewhere to vent before i see my therapist later this week.
Thanks
I'm 28, I've been dating this new guy for about 5 months and it's recently become long distance due to him finishing his PhD.
He is a wonderful guy. Easily thr healthiest relationship that I've been involved in.
My current issue is that I'm suddenly re-grieving my last ex. Even though we broke up 2 years ago. And it was a semi toxic relationship. Not abusive, but definitely not healthy as both of us have our share of trauma and baggage. But I LOVED this man. And about a month ago, I received a text from him asking to take me on a date. I didn't have his number saved and I proceeded to block him. But I've had trouble shaking myself of him since. Like I've been having lots of dreams and everything.
I think me missing him is largely due to me feeling lonely.
my boyfriend really does put effort into out relationship. BUT he is across the country and busy with school and stuff obviously. And I know that I can't really ask him to pay more attention to me than he does. Because it's really already more than he has time for.
its just making me second guess everything. My current relationship is kinda up in the air depending on where he moves for his post doc and whether or not I feel comfortable uprooting my life to follow him in the next year or so.
And I KNOW going back to my ex wouldn't be a good move. But wow it's giving me some unexpectedly disabling grief that i wasn't expecting.
To clarify, I'd never cheat. I've not responded and I would not as long as I'm in this relationship.
But its a hard spot to be in and i guess i just needed somewhere to vent before i see my therapist later this week.
Thanks
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