What if you have been with a man for almost two years, you are still wondering what the future will be?
I met my boyfriend met online. We are in our late forties, are both divorced, and both have kids.
For the past year, we are only seeing each other once a week (one night, or part of the weekend) because he has his kids part of the time, and his has a busy job which involves traveling. We live about 45 minutes apart, and his long commute also means less time together.
We have incredible physical chemistry and we both say that we've never experienced that much passion before. We enjoy many of the same things and we're intellectually compatible also.
Recently I am uneasy because we spend a lot less time together, and it does not seem likely that we will move in together in the next three years (when his older child graduates from high school) or even in the next 5 years (when his younger child graduates).
Another thing is he has never said the "3 words" yet. Once I asked him if he loves me, and he said I should watch what he does, not what he says.
I asked him again today, and he said he does not want to say it "just to say it." He thinks he was too hurt by his previous marriage. We were both cheated on by our spouses after 20 years of marriage.
I do not think he is just fooling around. But I am not sure whether I want to hang out for that long without even knowing he is sure he loves me.
I am OK with the idea of not moving in together because of the kids. On the other hand, I don't know if I will ever find somebody like him. I felt so lucky and amazed that there is somebody like him for me.
Too long already! Confused!
I met my boyfriend met online. We are in our late forties, are both divorced, and both have kids.
For the past year, we are only seeing each other once a week (one night, or part of the weekend) because he has his kids part of the time, and his has a busy job which involves traveling. We live about 45 minutes apart, and his long commute also means less time together.
We have incredible physical chemistry and we both say that we've never experienced that much passion before. We enjoy many of the same things and we're intellectually compatible also.
Recently I am uneasy because we spend a lot less time together, and it does not seem likely that we will move in together in the next three years (when his older child graduates from high school) or even in the next 5 years (when his younger child graduates).
Another thing is he has never said the "3 words" yet. Once I asked him if he loves me, and he said I should watch what he does, not what he says.
I asked him again today, and he said he does not want to say it "just to say it." He thinks he was too hurt by his previous marriage. We were both cheated on by our spouses after 20 years of marriage.
I do not think he is just fooling around. But I am not sure whether I want to hang out for that long without even knowing he is sure he loves me.
I am OK with the idea of not moving in together because of the kids. On the other hand, I don't know if I will ever find somebody like him. I felt so lucky and amazed that there is somebody like him for me.
Too long already! Confused!
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