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I love my boyfriend but these days we have many many arguments. I believe in two individuals in a relationship. I want us to grow separately, have our own interests, hobbies, jobs, friends, and dreams. I want us to come together with what we share. I believe in self-love, in making yourself happy before making others happy. I am a femminist, I have graduated from the university and I dream about having my own career. But he disagrees. Completely. For him self-love is selfishness. He tells me he loves me more than himself, more than his life and he doesn't want to be a piece of a puzzle in my life but it's greatest part. He doesn't like my ideas about career, dreams and indivuduality because he thinks it makes people two strangers living together and having a family. I told him that I want to remain me, that I want to develop myself and rely on myself to be happy. He doesn't agree. He thinks he should make me happy, he should solve my fears and my issues. I told him to have his things, me having mine and him having his but he claims that he would divide his soul too much and only a piece of his heart would be for me which means that he would love me less but he wants to love me with his whole existence, I am his life, he works to have money for us, for me not to work (I want to work, I want to have a career) and that he wants to be the same for me. We have been arguing for 2 months. I know, my ideas about love make me feel it less for him than he feels for me. And I think I would be happier letting go of myself to love him more. But I am afraid of losing myself and co-dependency. What should I do?