Is It A Common Problem To Get Dry While Having Sex?

[Caroline]

Is it a common problem to get dry while having sex and can't support till the end...

I'm afraid and frustrated..

what happen

what to do???

Thanks

[Malvin]

Good news Caroline... it is TOTALLY NORMAL.

It does not mean that you are not wet enough... it does not mean you are not staying aroused... it does not mean your man is doing anything wrong.. it does not mean anyone has any problem.

Here are the facts...

When you are having intercourse past a couple of minutes... the friction from the motion is constantly drying your natural lube and turning it sticky.

It' is chemically similar to mucus and like mucus... if you rub it around between your fingers it will quickly dry into sticky goo... sounds great, right?

This dried lubricant will then continue to absorb wetness as you continue the friction... which is why most couples who indulge in an active and athletic sex life use a water based lubricant like K-Y jelly or astroglide.

The other IMPORTANT part of this equation is that during arousal you do not continuously produce the same amount of natural lube... it ebbs and flows and it is most active during early arousal.

This is the EXACT physical analog to what happens with men's erections... during arousal... a man's erection tends to ebb and flow in hardness.

When we are teenagers or in our 20s... you can sometimes stay rock-hard throughout a long session of intercourse... and as we mature... erections will vary in hardness during a long session of love making.

Unfortunately many couples get very insecure about this... men feel like they are inadequate and women feel unattractive and that it must mean that their man is not staying aroused for them... the result of this is a massive epidemic of men who are taking pharmaceuticals to enhance their erection when they do not need to.

I am amazed by the sheer number of men in their 20s, 30s, and 40s, with totally ability to maintain erection... who are now taking "vitamin V" almost every time they are with their lover.

Ange's prescription...

Use the lube for vaginal dryness without any embarrassment or concern... it just means you have a good sex life... and skip the "V" and enjoy the variety in his erection.

[Caleb]

Sexual health problems in women

Sexual dysfunction is a major concern among female as well due to below problems:

Low lubrication in vagina: In case the vagina remains dry during intercourse, women may experience extended pain. This lack of lubrication could often result due to changes in hormone during or after breastfeeding or menopause. Apprehension of unbearable pain while having sex due to vaginal dryness could in turn cut the sexual desire among females.

Pain during intercourse: Sometimes, women feel unbearable pain in vagina during sex, due to some unknown reason. This type of chronic and painful sex is termed as vulvar vestibules, whose cause is still unknown. Ladies affected from this anomaly may experience a burning sensation followed by severe pain during sex.

Common Sexual problems in men and women

Some sexual problems that are alike in both the genders include:

Lack of libido: This problem affects the sexual activity among both the male and female. Among men, their hectic daily routine, work stress, depression, and anxiety about sex could be among the major reasons behind decreased libido. Likewise, reduced levels of estrogen, along with depression, sexual anxiety, antidepressants, and fatigue could cause retarded appetite for sex in female.

Inability to attain orgasm: When a female feels extreme pleasure during sex, she has probably achieved the orgasm. Other indications for the same include fast heartbeats and contraction of genital muscles. Some women may even ejaculate fluid from urethral glands during orgasm. Among men, orgasm occurs when they ejaculate in their female partner's vagina. Unfortunately, the instances of delayed orgasm or inability to release the sexual tension in the form of fluid spurt are common among both male and female. Consumption of anti-depressant could be a major reason behind such a problem

[Caroline]

Great advice, thank you so much.