Dealing with my boyfriend’s ED

[Sdota]

I am a female struggling with my boyfriend’s ED. We’ve been dating for 3 months and he’s amazing, but our sex life is terrible. He only orgasms 1/4 of the time, I am almost always in the same position, he doesn’t like oral sex (on me), and he said he hasn’t been able to give up porn completely (which I would be fine with if not for the ED). I’m worried he either is not attracted to me and doesn’t want to admit it because he likes me, or he has a porn addiction. He is very slim, rarely eats/exercises, and is sometimes tired, which I thought may have been a factor in the beginning.. but I don’t think so anymore. He seems content with how things are.
I really want it to work with him, but I’m at a loss for what to do.. I try to get him to open up about his preferences, I try really hard to please him and try different things, but he just says he doesn’t have any (which I don’t believe). I used to be a bit heavier and so I have things like a bit of a tummy, stretch marks, cellulite, and I know his ex was petite and tiny, so it’s hard for me not to blame myself and not be insecure. Especially since I’ve been in abusive relationships in the past where my exes put me down for how my body looked (ironically could still get it up though).

I just want to be a supportive girlfriend but I want to be happy too, even if 3/5 times it went well I’d be content. I’m not a guy so it’s hard for me to empathize and fully understand the cause, but the longer it goes on the less I can believe it’s performance anxiety, low energy, or hormones..

how should I move forward? We’ve tried taking about it and I’ve thought about suggesting a sex therapist or a councillor.. I just don’t want to make it worse somehow. It sucked he wasn’t willing to give up porn for me for a while..

PS. He’s gone to a doctor and he’s healthy, and when these things happen I do my best not to make a big deal of it so as not to stress him out more or things like that.

[Pink Flamingo]

The source of ED could be many. If his testosterone levels are normal he could have a "Porn" Ed problem. His mind is programed to be stimulated to Porn only. He needs to stop. He could try Viagra or something similar. But the bigger problem is he won't go down on you. If he expects you to go down on him and won't return the favor dump this dude and find someone that will.

[Judith]

His problem is porn addiction, and until he stop porn he won't be able to get over ED. So, your job should be to figure out how to make him stop watching porn.

[Bill]

Try to follow the steps given below for a fully satisfying sex life.

1) Eat good food: Your food habits play a crucial role in maintaining the quality of your sex life. Simple changes in your diet will help you to increase your libido and it will make your penis as strong as a rod. There are certain foods which are known for their sexual magic. They are bananas, onions, eggs, drum stick, leafy vegetables and meat. Intake of ghee and dairy products will also help you to enhance your sexual life.

2) Avoid Smoking: It has been scientifically proven that smoking is one of the major villains behind erectile dysfunction. In a recent study, it has been evidently proven that smokers have 30% less libido when compared to non smokers. Smoking will reduce your blood circulation and it will decrease your lung capacity. Regular smoking will decrease your ability to maintain a proper erection.

3) Cut down the number of fire shots: Drinking alcohol also affects your sexual life negatively. Excessive alcohol intake will numb your body and it will result in temporary erectile dysfunction. ''If you are a social boozer, try to cut down the number of pegs during bed time''. It will also help you to enjoy sex with full presence of mind.

4) Get positioned well: Sexual positions plays vital role behind the success of an intercourse. You can adopt positions like missionary or doggy style to increase the blood flow to your penis and it will help you to get a sturdier erection. Always try to position yourself on the top as it will help you to get a stronger erection. Remember, gravity is a super natural force and it will increase your blood flow as well.

5) Avoid Frequent Masturbation: Some people masturbate too often to fulfill their sexual fantasies. Excessive masturbation will decrease your sex cravings to a great extend. Continuous masturbation will lead to a weak erection and you will be an Adonis only in your dreams. Save some sex for real life and enjoy it to the fullest.

6) Exercise your penis: Healthy men love to do exercises and they will be sexually active throughout their life. One of the best ways to increase your sexual cravings is by doing exercises. Exercises also help you to reduce stress and it will boost the testosterone secretion of your body. A work out called kegal exercises is specially designed to strengthen your penis.

7) Stop using tight under garments: Wearing tight undergarments will reduce the blood flow to your penis and this will lead to erectile dysfunction for sure. Try to use loose and airy under garments to free the blood flow to your penis.

8) Keep mentally fit: Some people think that they have a weak erection, but the case may be vice versa. Allow positive thoughts to rule your mind and expel all negative air. This will help you stay calm while sex and you will feel yourself as a flying Adonis.

Erection plays a vital role in your whole sex life. So try to follow the tips given above to lead a healthy and satisfying sex life.

[bdog]

I can not say what is the problem but I do know that for me it is easier to keep it up with a new girl or a hot girl. If there are things you can do to improve your appearance I think that will only help. Can you work a bit on your stomach and cellulite? I think dressing sexy before and during, I.e., lingerie might help too. Also, when a girl holds my penis with French nails or nice long nails that’s a big turn on as well.

[EDDoctorOnline]

According to a survey, 20% of men watch porn on an average of five times a week. And, 3% of them also agree that they see it during sexual activity with their partners.
Porn addiction is similar to cocaine addiction. Addicts build tolerance for pornographic content over time—and lose interest in their real-life sexual activity. Watching excess pornography may result in developing unrealistic expectations among men, which could lead to libido-sapping anxiety.

If you feel that the above self-taken measures are not solving your problem, then it is a good idea to visit an erectile dysfunction treatment clinic for help.