I want to be with her again...

[divorceman45]

Two years have passed and I’m still in love with my ex-wife. We’re divorced and two of our three kids are with her. We decided to separate ways when we thought we’re still young and immature to be tied in marriage. We often see each other, no bitterness involve. Sometimes, I go to her place to visit our kids, and vice versa. But yeah, I’m still into her. I want her back. I was the one who took the action for divorce so it’s me who should win her back - again… What should I do?

[David]

When two people get married, it's hard to know what to expect or if anything is going to change. Being married is completely different as opposed to simply dating. Over the years, there may be problems and some may not be solved, which means that most marriages fail and lead in divorce. If you are looking to get your ex back after a divorce, here are a few helpful and yet successful methods to try.

Think of Valid Reasons to Win Your Ex Back
First of all, you must think of valid and logical reasons to win your ex wife back after a divorce. Don't make any lame excuses. Tell her straight up that you want to try to fix things.

Avoid Bizarre Expectations
Unrealistic and unusual expectations create problems in a marriage. By avoiding bizarre and unrealistic hopes from your ex wife, you can build a barrier free and healthy relationship once again and show her that you two can be happy.

Make Her Aware of Your Feelings
Don't be afraid to tell your ex wife exactly how you are feeling inside. Tell her that you love her and want her back. Don't hold back, but don't get too carried away. She may feel that you still love her and this can be the beginning of something good.

Make Your Personality Attractive
Your ex wife knows your personality and type of person you are. Make sure that now your appearance is more attractive than it was before. Display your transformed behavior in front of her. Show her the new you and show her that you've improved.

Be Consistent
Don't just rush into things, especially if you were the cause of the divorce. Approach her little by little. Maybe ask her to go to dinner with you and start spending some time together that is not sexual. This can allow you two to reconnect on an emotional level.

Show Her That the Relationship is Going to Be Better
By assuring your ex wife that things are going to be better this time around, she may feel a little more at ease, especially if you are taking the other steps and applying them. Don't stop if she says no, as the more consistent and persistent you are, the more she will realize that you are serious.

Respect Her
Respect her decisions and control anger and tempers. While it can be frustrating to be turned own, remember that she is hurt and needs time. By taking things slow, you are showing her that you respect her and are willing to do whatever it takes.

[Ella]

Marriage takes two people to succeed and it also takes two people to fail. It's easy, during the course of the divorce, for each spouse to blame the other for the difficulties in the marriage. Once the divorce is final if you are still in love with your wife you have to be prepared to own up to any errors you made during the course of the relationship. If your actions contributed to the end of the marriage, you have to be prepared to take responsibility for them. One of the most important things to remember when you are wondering how to get your ex wife back is that you need to own up to anything you've done to hurt her or cause her emotional pain.

You must also respect her privacy after the divorce if you have any hope of getting her back. If you two have children and you regularly see her when picking them up or dropping them off for visitation, don't hang around her home without an invitation to do so. Immediately following a divorce, many women feel a need to think and have their space. If you crowd her or make yourself too available she may begin to resent your presence in her life. This is not something you want to have happen when you are working to get your ex wife back.

Show her through your actions have mature you are being about the split. Don't ever call her begging her to take you back or asking if you can move back in with her. You need to show her that you respect her desire to have this time apart. The best thing for you to do at this point is to focus on improving your own life. You can do this by putting in extra hours at work, going to the gym or taking a class.

Your goal needs to be to show her that you are still the man she initially fell in love with. Be kind to her and polite and let the events that took place in the past, stay in the past. You must be prepared to sit down with her, when the time is ready, to discuss anything she wishes. You have to be willing to show her that you genuinely understand her and want only the best for her.

[ananthiM]

Apologize each day. Make her feels special again like you used to do when yo were dating her. take her out