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Hi I'm Veronica and I'm 47. I have been happily married to my husband who is 58 for nearly 20 years. We get along great and love each other dearly. We have a great family, although we had children later in life. They range in age from 14 to 9 years old and we do a lot of fun and crazy things together. However, between my husband's career and him spending all his free time with the kids, there is little time left over for the two of us. Even when we do get a sliver of time he is too tired to make love to me. In the past probably five or six years, his libido has gone to pretty much zero. However, he said he is more than happy focusing on his career and the kids. Problem is I always wanted more from him and I am not getting it. We haven't had sex in almost 9 months.
That brings me to about six months ago just before Christmas. My husband pulled me aside and said he felt bad that I wasn't getting the sexual attention I deserved and he told me it might be for the best if I discretely see another man to give me that. Upon first hearing this I was offended but I do realize all the other commitments my husband has to our family and that he just wants the best for us long term. Our entire marriage I never dreamed of being with another man, but after thinking about it I told him I would consider this as a necessary release of sexual energy for me. I wasn't interested in a side-boyfriend so to speak. I was mainly looking for sexual gratification and that was it. I am okay admitting that.
Because my husband is 11 years older than me I started to think about starting something with a younger man than me for a change. A man who has a lot of energy and sexual desire. Then two months ago I found the perfect guy. He's a gorgeous latino guy who is a high level college soccer player (I know he ended up being a lot younger but he's still an adult so I am okay with it). He trains at the field in between the track where I run. After a month of eyeing him from afar I decided to approach him and one thing led to another and we ended up meeting for lunch. This might seem weird but my husband wanted to know who he was and I invited him to meet my new younger guy. Surprisingly they got along well and my husband gave me his blessing to see him. I doubt they will meet again as this was just part of an initial step in the process of making this a reality.
I was so happy and excited. This guy has confidence about him that is mature beyond his years, he has a chiseled body with muscular thighs which is a huge turn on to me and he was really sweet. So this past weekend we met at a hotel mid-day and we had the most amazing sex I have ever had for about two and a half hours. I was in heaven the entire time and even now I feel like I have a new energy about me and I it makes me feel good to have my husband's support in this.
I have planned to see my new younger guy again but part of me is worried we are getting too carried away. My relationship with my husband is great (besides the sexual part) and I want to be with him forever. He stresses to me that he is happy for me and that he is excited for me all the time. The most important people in my life are my three kids and I want to be the best mother I can be for them. I would be horrified if they found out about this but at the end of the day it is my private life which is my business. And to add to that, I do not believe my relationship with my kids will be affected by this as I am together with this guy when they are out doing other things anyways.
My question is, has anyone ever been in a situation somewhat similar to this before or do you know of anyone who has done this and been successful with it? Also, do you think it is wise to continue on with this guy?
I can also provide more specific details if anyone would be kind enough to email me or if you have more general feedback I would appreciate your thoughts here as well. I greatly value everyone's feedback.
Thank you,
V
That brings me to about six months ago just before Christmas. My husband pulled me aside and said he felt bad that I wasn't getting the sexual attention I deserved and he told me it might be for the best if I discretely see another man to give me that. Upon first hearing this I was offended but I do realize all the other commitments my husband has to our family and that he just wants the best for us long term. Our entire marriage I never dreamed of being with another man, but after thinking about it I told him I would consider this as a necessary release of sexual energy for me. I wasn't interested in a side-boyfriend so to speak. I was mainly looking for sexual gratification and that was it. I am okay admitting that.
Because my husband is 11 years older than me I started to think about starting something with a younger man than me for a change. A man who has a lot of energy and sexual desire. Then two months ago I found the perfect guy. He's a gorgeous latino guy who is a high level college soccer player (I know he ended up being a lot younger but he's still an adult so I am okay with it). He trains at the field in between the track where I run. After a month of eyeing him from afar I decided to approach him and one thing led to another and we ended up meeting for lunch. This might seem weird but my husband wanted to know who he was and I invited him to meet my new younger guy. Surprisingly they got along well and my husband gave me his blessing to see him. I doubt they will meet again as this was just part of an initial step in the process of making this a reality.
I was so happy and excited. This guy has confidence about him that is mature beyond his years, he has a chiseled body with muscular thighs which is a huge turn on to me and he was really sweet. So this past weekend we met at a hotel mid-day and we had the most amazing sex I have ever had for about two and a half hours. I was in heaven the entire time and even now I feel like I have a new energy about me and I it makes me feel good to have my husband's support in this.
I have planned to see my new younger guy again but part of me is worried we are getting too carried away. My relationship with my husband is great (besides the sexual part) and I want to be with him forever. He stresses to me that he is happy for me and that he is excited for me all the time. The most important people in my life are my three kids and I want to be the best mother I can be for them. I would be horrified if they found out about this but at the end of the day it is my private life which is my business. And to add to that, I do not believe my relationship with my kids will be affected by this as I am together with this guy when they are out doing other things anyways.
My question is, has anyone ever been in a situation somewhat similar to this before or do you know of anyone who has done this and been successful with it? Also, do you think it is wise to continue on with this guy?
I can also provide more specific details if anyone would be kind enough to email me or if you have more general feedback I would appreciate your thoughts here as well. I greatly value everyone's feedback.
Thank you,
V
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